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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation

    That seems positive. But it’s your call.

    For me, “conforming” means listening, considering my audience, controlling interjections, and asking people about stuff. I don’t feel like I’m denying myself, I feel like I’m being more considerate.

    I can see how other kinds of conformance could be awful. Denying one’s sexuality or something like that.


  • If the new you is closer to the person you want to be, isn’t that a win?

    I feel like I do this enough that it becomes a comfortable habit. Occasionally, I still want to interrupt people to tell them how wrong they are, or how right I am, or just become the centre of attention. But that isn’t who I want to be. And that urge seems to diminish as I learn to listen and ask questions, and then that becomes more of a habit.

    But I guess it depends on what you’re editing.












  • Not cried, but I felt shaken and sad when Iain Banks died. His writing isn’t important to me the way a few other authors are, but I read his stuff at a very specific time in my life. I think his death got me thinking about my own mortality.

    I didn’t find out about Toren Smith’s death until a few years ago. It’s sad that he died so young. I felt the same way when Nigel Findley died.

    Both of them created worlds that I ran TTRPGs in. I think that makes me feel a weird connection with them. They didn’t know that I exist, but I still built on what they gave me, and that makes me feel a kinship (and admiration) for them.