• 0 Posts
  • 13 Comments
Joined 1 year ago
cake
Cake day: July 1st, 2023

help-circle


  • A lot of people have given good answers but I’ll throw in an anecdote.

    Growing up my dad would talk about how important it is to follow laws. Don’t do drugs, don’t drink and drive, etc, but even the smaller ones like don’t jay-walk and never litter.

    On a car ride I noticed he was going like 5 mph over the speed limit and I pointed it out. Something like “if its important to follow every law why are you breaking the speed limit”.

    And he responded something about how it’s not an actual law but a recommended speed or something. But I kept saying it was a law and he was breaking it. He got pretty upset and finally said if I didn’t drop he’d take away my Gameboy for a weekend or something.

    It could’ve been he was just annoyed his kid wouldn’t shut up but it seems like textbook cognitive dissonance that he couldn’t reconcile the two ideas that every law should be followed and it’s ok to break the speed limit a little and it got him upset.









  • Do what you can.

    There’s so many problems, so much uncertainty about the future, it can sometimes feel overwhelming and you just shut down. If you have a counter full of dishes, even if you wash one dish you’ve technically made the situation better. Marginally sure, but still in the right direction. And if that’s where you can focus your attention it might provide some momentum to finish all of them. But if not, that’s fine too, you still made the situation a little better and sometimes that’s the best we can hope for.

    Hope you find what you’re looking for.