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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • That’s where I’m at as well. Could go so many different ways; how do I know someone is intelligent? Do their conversations feel particularly deep to me? Do they invest their money well? Good at memorizing baseball facts?

    At a certain point yeah, obviously if they just have wind blowing around inside their head it’s unlikely that I would find them desirable as a partner. So in a way it is very important to me. But the vast majority of people are capable of nurturing loving and rewarding relationships rooted in who they are as a whole, whether or not they are remarkably intelligent. So in another way it’s not important at all



  • Plus extremely boring, because you’re not doing anything remotely sounding graceful

    It’s something every single musician has to go through.

    Actually it’s something everyone has to go through when learning anything.

    Would you also quit learning a second language because you can’t immediately have a full conversation with a native speaker? Quit working out because you don’t start with the ability to do pull-ups? Quit any game you try if you don’t win your first match?

    The excitement is in seeing yourself progress from the point of being a complete beginner. You are depriving yourself of a great joy by abandoning the project at the first sign of any friction



  • Someone recently spammed a popular community with about a hundred copies of a hate message + an unmarked nsfw image. I reported it as I’m sure everyone else who saw them did, taken down very swiftly, thanks mods.

    But in that case as with many others I think the goal literally is just to put hate and the threat of violence before people’s eyes. Even if only for a few minutes, maybe a vulnerable person sees it and it ruins their day. Real scum of the earth mentality



  • Improving my mental health helped me start exercising, actually. But also now I think staying committed to it generally assists in keeping me mentally well. There are tons of things I do that are somehow easier for me to execute in the context of of training instead of just for their own sake (for whatever reason), such as getting consistent sleep and cutting back on drinking.