I think the other thing to remember is that in different English speaking countries the word as a verb causes a different level of offence.

In British English it’s not offensive at all to say someone was b***ing about something.

It is odd that community bans don’t come with any communication.

Good question, I was thinking about this the other day. The reason being that development of several fediverse apps has seemingly stalled because the previously active developers have life issues. (I’m not moaning about it, just a straightforward account)

It seems to me that FOSS developers wouldn’t want their projects to be popular. Because that comes with pressure to constantly improve or expand and it takes up more time. So they start a Patreon or similar but that adds more pressure.

When projects are community developed then I see disagreements and personality clashes which increases stress for lead developers.