That’s the difference between my first and second marriage in a nutshell. Moving away (psychologically, not physically) from all the horrible shit I grew up with and thinking that was normal to having a better understanding of what I want to have in my life and some idea of how to get there.

Pretty sure that’s a horse skull, and holy fuck, why was that ever made?

Edit: probably not a horse, but some kind of ungulate.

Well, pizza is pretty important, too.

Having addresses be easily legible for emergency services isn’t inconsequential, and is legally required where I live.

Old people have been saying this since I was a kid, and I’m old now. Our perception of time appears to be weighted inversely with how much we’ve experienced, so summer feels like forever for a preteen, but two years is a blink of an eye to someone in their 50s. Couple that with no significant events or milestones for months or years, and your perception of time is further distorted. And now all those old people, like me, can talk to a million people online about it, so it appears more prevalent than it was before, when old people couldn’t or weren’t communicating with strangers half a world away on a daily basis.

Yeah, this reads like, “I suck at this skill, so this skill must be useless and the people who do use it are wrong.”

And you don’t perhaps think your attitude is guided by your feelings? Why should others around you have to be the toilet where you deal with your feelings by having such a negative attitude? Or perhaps none of us are sufficient to do this on our own, and sometimes we rely on those close to us to get us through the parts we find difficult.

The fact you liken emotions to a waste product, and not an equally vital part of the entire process, says it all.

Holy shit, it’s almost like men and women sometimes have different motivations! Maybe the problem isn’t the event, but how she feels about it. And maybe the solution is to let her get it off her chest instead of suppressing it. I know, us guys generally don’t like to deal with our feelings, but that doesn’t mean they don’t exist, or that it wouldn’t be healthier if we did.

small thing to get hung up on

The thong, right?

The portion per capita that Americans pay for Medicare and Medicaid is about the same as Canadians pay for our Healthcare. Then they get the privilege of paying insurers and others for the coverage they have if they don’t qualify for those two programs.

Marriage is by definition not consequence-free. It has many obligations. It’s also great if you at least don’t mind those obligations.

So I was between relationships, hanging out with a friend, dropping her off at work when one of her coworkers catches my eye. I ask my friend who she is, and she laughs and says she’s in a long-term relationship. I laugh and move on.

Later on, I try to call my friend at her work, and this lady picks up the phone. I’m in a good mood, I flirt with her a bit and hang up once I’ve gotten the info about my friend.

Months after all that, I’m renting out a room and this friend refers her coworker who just broke up with her boyfriend. She moves in, engages in some rebound activity, and we hang out a bit. I determine I’m interested in her and she’s interested in me, but I’ve been dating someone for a while. This relationship is only a few months old, and it’s reminding me of my first marriage. I break it off and have sex with my roommate on what could charitably be called our first date. Within 6 months she stops having her own room.

We proceed to blow past a number of other red flags, and have now been together for about 14 years, married for 7.

I told (and tell) my kids that we did everything wrong in starting a relationship, but it worked out in spite of it

Here’s some elucidation. The second infographic is a handy synopsis of the article. Only 10 or 15 steps (that’s we know of so far) that have to happen to get to either side of that chart, and what do we do with everyone in the middle? I’d rather shrug and use whatever label they prefer than insist on using the one my layman’s knowledge might suggest.

Win98 was so bad they released Win98SE.

It’s just how you use it…

Pretty sure those changes were made to get us better vocal cords, allowing us more range for speech. Here’s the first link I found that talks about it.

Yep, when RIF died I left. I only go there for Google searches now, and only if the info isn’t somewhere else.

PF2e works pretty well on Foundry. I’ve been playing it for a while now and while there are some glitches, there has been steady progress and only a few niche activities aren’t decently accounted for. I heard PF described as D&D5e with some homebrew rules added on to fix the balance issues, and 2e takes it a bit further. There are things I don’t like, but it’s pretty fun and having a computer take care of most of the tedious math is nice.

I completely agree. I feel like I have to traverse the entire menu system, which is also broken into different areas, to find some feature I’m sure must be there, I just haven’t found it yet.

I wasn’t making any judgement on this, although if I were, I would point out that one of the benefits of open source is the ability to fork projects and move away from the elements you have a philosophical issue with, such as what the OpenOffice developers did when Oracle purchased Sun and started imposing their unplayable rules. What I was half-jokingly pointing out was some guy coming in deep into the conversation of highly opinionated people and acting like the conversation wasn’t about their various opinions.