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Cake day: August 26th, 2023

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  • Here’s a hot take. Do what you want when you are young. Find a way. I spent my 20’s moving around, having shitty but fun jobs. I travelled. Saw all kinds of places and met all sorts of people. It wasn’t easy and sometimes it wasn’t fun. I found myself homeless even several times. I still wouldn’t change any of it. I found a wonderful partner and we moved together for a while before settling and having kids.

    In my early 40s I was diagnosed with a really rare cancer that paralyzed me from the chest down for a year prior to surgery and left lasting disabilities following. Now in my 50’s with declining health I am so glad I lived. It means I don’t have a lot of things others have but I’ve never cared much for the Jones’ anyway. If Cancer taught me anything it’s fuck society and their expectations. Do you. Find a way. Be happy.












  • My father in law used to get on my case a lot about cooking. I love to cook. I spend a lot of time in the kitchen and have done it professionally. He wasn’t nasty about it but he’s an older fella (being that I’m 50) and he used to say “I just can’t understand.” He has been around good food his entire life made all around the world. I asked him to name one professional chef that was female aside from Julia Child. At the time there weren’t many well known in that boys club yet. Then I explained.that my workshop ( a big thing in his life) was the kitchen. Gadgets, fire and sharp things that can lop off fingers everywhere you look. It took him a long time to accept it but he worked it out.