Yep this. They are afraid that their way of life is being threatened… Just like the other fanatics There are religious fanatics, sporta fanatics, Independent fanatics prepping for the aliens to come and kill them, etc. Mobs are dangerous no matter the flag they wave.
Good things: you get someone to spend time with. Frequent sex. Someone to share your world with.b you tell your secrets, you trust them
Bad things: they have their own needs, even when it isn’t convenient for you. You have to accept that you’re a partnership, and their judgement is important. You trust them, whether or not they deserve it. You are open and vulnerable, which means you’re vulnerable. Sex can be mechanical and unfulfilling. Your growth needs to include them