For short term relief/emotional regulation my counsellor taught me TIPP Temperature - cold water/ice/object to lower heart rate Intense exercise - a few mins of jumping jacks/running on the spot/shaking it off Paced breathing/box breathing Paired muscle relaxation - tense and relax different muscle groups

When I’m anxious I tend to get overactive so the ones that help me most are splashing cold water on my face and the intense exercise.

Anxiety during bedtime or if I have time during the day, ASMR or a well paced peaceful podcast also do the trick.

I think I will try the slower speed music, that sounds interesting.

They would love to but we’re all equally fucked in this economy tbh. We’re all just trying to make more money so we can help each other out when someone needs it.

I like to call anyone older than me old because it’s funny and I perpetually feel like a child.

When I was little I thought my parents were old, now they are in their 60s and I think they are young, and I am the age they were and still feel like a child. Otherwise I’m not sure I really had a concept of age as a tie to mortality when I was younger.

I think my cousins maybe made me try this as a joke when I was younger but hear me out…

Toast. With mayo. Sprinkled with chocolate powder.

I don’t eat it anymore because I’m a grown up or whatever but I still get cravings for it sometimes.

MMM I used to put choco krispies (think chocolate rice krispies) into my quesadillas. That shit was fire.

Y’all are just making sopa de tortilla now

It looks like those lungs they put on cigarette packs

I know they’re essentially the same thing but when you say it that way I think of a hooded pullover, but hoodies are zippered for me.

If it has a zipper I’d consider it a sweater not a cardigan. Cardis have buttons.

(Realizing that a cardigan is a type of sweater, but I just mean it’s a different kind of sweater)

I mean, I don’t think it’s that he’s not feeling things, my mom definitely heard him crying at night and stuff. He just does his best to hide it from us.

I know what you mean though about depression shutting you down, and I don’t doubt there’s plenty of trauma in his past so it’s probably just a bit of everything.

I hope you’re well <3

When I was young, my dad would do cheesy magic tricks and let me walk on his feet. He’d let me and my sister dress him up and put clips in his hair. Growing up he helped with my homework and cultured my love for learning and writing. This all fostered really wonderful memories.

As an adult, the one thing that I would change about my relationship with him is that I’d wish he could better express his emotions. He’s very emotionally shut-in and we recently went through the deaths of his brother and his mom and that man has cried once. I know he feels sad but he just acts like everything’s okay and that’s hard for me to watch and hard for me to know how to be there for him. My mom, on the other hand, is very emotionally open and I always know that she needs me to talk or to just be there with her. I guess more so than expressing his emotions, I just wish he’d tell me what he needs, but we come from a culture of machismo where he learned he’s not supposed to need things, especially from women.

Anyways, just be there for your baby girl. Enjoy your time together, and she’ll have plenty of great memories with her dad.

Capybaras. Animals aren’t evil but if you’re trying to think of a chill animal that does no wrong by human standards, it’s capybaras.

Do not like the Arnold level picture, but I like strong people. From my understanding of muscular & strong people, strength muscles =/= show off muscles, and you can be strong without spending all day at the gym.

Bro can’t even go to a restaurant without feeling awkward and you want them to go on a date?

Jolly ranchers sour misfits. I used to buy the big share packs but I can’t keep them in my house anymore or else I eat them until I have canker sores.

Omg yogurt covered raisins too

If you want to start with another less horrifying book by him (that isn’t fight club), I’d highly recommend Rant or invisible monsters

That’s one of my favourite books. If you take it in the sort of gory comedy horror genre (thinking evil dead), it’s actually pretty great and has more depth to it than just horror stories.

Some of his later books get much worse, more gory, and far less interesting. He’s really just going for shock value in a lot of them. I stopped reading after the pink sock in Pygmy (couldn’t even finish the book).

This sounds made up but I want to believe it and will do no further research into the matter. Mystery solved.

There is one pupusa place where I live and they don’t season their food and it just breaks my heart.