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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • A stupid argument I was having about how DND isn’t the best tool for many stories that aren’t about combat + resource management. I know people can have fun with anything but it bugs me when people are like “I do a political intrigue game about secret modern vampires in DND 5e” the same way it might bother some of you if someone was like “I put in my screws with a hammer” or “I add up the numbers in my spreadsheet by hand and type them into the totals row one at a time” or “I don’t use copy-paste I just retype everything”

    Like, it doesn’t matter but it bugs me a little.

    But I was getting down voted into oblivion so I gave up after someone begrudgingly admitted that yes different games have different focuses.


  • No, it’s not awful all the time. Cruising down a highway or familiar streets can be kind of zen. I say this as someone who despises car-culture and believes most transit should be mass, public, transit options like buses and trains. But I have fond memories of cruising down the highway at night by myself singing along with my favorite music.

    I live somewhere that’s walkable and has a subway system now, and it’s much better. Don’t have to worry about parking, insurance, fuel, drinking too much. So if you really hate driving, you could look into living somewhere that doesn’t require it.


  • ll take a very extreme example. Our culture’s racism would be inherently better with better transit. There’s reasons why more urbanized cores are more open to other people and cultu

    I’ve also thought about this. Being on the subway with other people humanizes them in a way being stuck in traffic doesn’t. When you have the shared experience of everyone groaning over the “being held in the station by the dispatcher”, that makes a difference. It’s a lot easier to hate people you never see.



  • I live in NYC. It’s one of the few large places in the US that’s dense and not completely car focused.

    Convenience store: 5 minute walk to several

    Supermarket: several within 10 minute walk

    Pharmacy: several within 10 minutes on foot

    Library: I think there’s two within 10-15 minutes walking

    Restaurants: several within 10 minutes on foot

    Subway: about 5 minute walk. There’s also a bus stop there.

    Very large park: 15 minutes or so

    I never want to live somewhere where I need a car again. Someone I was talking to at a party the other day was like “I love having my car it’s so much freedom” and I’m like aside from needing to fuel, maintain, insure, and store it I guess.



  • Anything with a subscription is a no for me. I think subscription games are less popular than they used to be, but I never played WoW because paying every month seemed excessive to me.

    Most shooters. Especially like CoD. Not interested. I enjoy the original doom, but that’s cartoony violence fighting demons. Some of the far cry games I’ve enjoyed, with some reservations.

    Almost all free to play games. They don’t feel like an honest deal most of the time. Like, Warframe was good somehow. But a lot of them feel predatory or annoying.

    Purely pvp games. No mobas or battle royales for me. I don’t want to deal with other people like that. A little pvp in a game, like dark souls, is fine. But I’m not looking for that to he the main thing, typically.



    • A solid, reliable, trusted, friend group. I’ve got a handful of people but some folks I know have like a whole crew.
    • At least one smart, hot, kind, loving, partner with at least one shared, actionable interest.
    • Power. Like, give me the infinity stones and I’ll fix the world.

    No other crisis at the moment, but you never know when you’re going to wake up with double cancer or whatever. I try to appreciate the nice moments.