Men: Stop fixating on the need to “get a woman”. Procreation is not how to win at life. No one virtuous is keeping score like that. All that “alpha/omega” stuff is trash. Stop everything you’re doing, trying and striving for. Spend some time genuinely at rest, not fixating on sex or work or entertainment or fitness, and think about yourself.
Really examine the person that you are. Think about the good that you’ve done. Think about the harm that you’ve caused. Think of how you can nudge yourself towards being a better person; someone who is considerate to others feelings, someone who can help without expecting reciprocation. Start doing that stuff. Your reward for this work is inner peace, not babes and money and success.
Self-reflection leaning towards kindness, forgiveness and genuine curiosity about yourself is the key to being the best you that you can be.
It will take a long time. When you get frustrated, ask yourself what kind of reward you’re expecting. If that reward is anything besides “being a happier, more satisfied me”, work on refocusing yourself.
Living like this will catch people’s attention. A word of warning: some will be emotional vampires who want to take advantage of you, and you’ll unfortunately have to live through a few relationships with those before you recognize them. But other people, more well-adjusted folks, will notice as well. Those are the kinds of people who can become life-long friends. And, in my experience, that’s where loving relationships start.
Who knows? You might uncover some really important things about yourself along the way that you never realized were there before.
Do you have any additional info on this Hetzner problem/fix, or perhaps a link to the admin community or discussion thread where they were discussing it?
I’d like to be able to point my instance’s admin there (as we’re seeing the same problem on both lemmy.blahaj.org and beehaw.org).
Thanks!
I’m genuinely disappointed that Asbestos Cafe is basically forbidden now. That’d be a solid name for a hardcore alcoholic vegan bar.
The web version of themoviedb.org has been my go-to for a while now. No app though.
I live in the residential area within the limits of a large US city.
To the nearest convenience store: 0.9 km To the nearest chain supermarket: 2.6 km To the bus stop: 0.3 km To the nearest park: 0.8 km To the nearest big supermarket: 3.1 km To the nearest library: 2.7 km To the nearest train station: 2.9 km
And I’d argue that these numbers are remarkably good for people in my situation as well.