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  • I’ve definitely had trouble finding specific books. There’s a popular book about the local climate here which is only available in print. There is a copy uploaded to archive.org, somebody scaned the whole book in, but it’s unavailable for download or check out.

    Have you checked archive.org? Or your local library systems?

    Also, there are some books which don’t have audiobooks that I’ve wanted to listen to. The Microsoft edge browser has a read to me mode which is really good. If you can find a book in text form, you can sometimes listen to it that way. I’ve actually converted ePub files into text files just for this purpose.






  • I mean no offense, but it sounds like you have poorly developed social skills. I used to as well.

    You could try reframing it in your mind:

    It’s not faking, it’s practice.

    If you pick up an instrument for the first time to practice, you will sound terrible, and possibly be discouraged, but if you practice for hundreds of hours you’ll be able to play it for real.

    Babies and children aren’t born knowing how to express interest or sympathize. You certainly weren’t. Children have to learn how to do this. It is possible that you need to practice if you want to build intimate relationships. There is no shortcut to this.


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    (35, he/him) This is how I met my first girlfriend, in reverse. I was lonely and had mentally committed to making a friend in a manic episode. I saw her on a bench reading and asked if I could sit next to her. I had a book with me too, and began to read. Then, I asked what she was reading. We became friends, and later dated for 2.5 years.

    I’ve spent a lot of time wandering around hoping people would talk to me. I used to feel like it was worthless, because 95% of the time no one will talk to you, but those odds aren’t so bad in hindsight. Go into public 100 times a year and you’ll have 5 decent shots at making a friend. Make one friend a year, and you’ll probably have more social opportunities than you want to deal with.

    I’ve met people randomly in public like this perhaps 6 times.

    There are other factors other than randomness:

    1. I’m very friendly to people. I like to ask questions once a conversation gets going, and I get animated on just about any topic. I talk to myself a lot, so even when I’m not exposed to people I’m practiced, in a way.

    2. There is usually an activity involved. Reading a book together, drawing on an airplane, posting art on a blog, taking classes together, being at the same work event, hiding in the same hard to find corner of the library. These are all situations from my life, and they typically involve a shared activity, or a creative outlet. This is probably why people recommend joining clubs / going to bars, advice I’ve never taken, but I see the reasoning.

    I don’t mean to project that my social life is great! I’ve been terribly lonely during much of it, and these experiences I’m describing took place over several years. However, if I could boil down my successes, I’d say they cultivating a curiousty in others and publically engaging in my hobbies has been the best way to make friends (and occasionally lovers).


  • I do wonder, hypothetically, if free Linux distros had 80% of the consumer market, would we see just as many dangerous exploits and malware as we do on Windows today? It seems to me that the consumer community is so small that it’s hard to say if it’s secure or just obscure.

    I understand in theory Linux is more secure… But are individual users really not opening themselves up to attacks, downloading foss software right and left? Using built in stores? Wine emulation?


  • Yeah, I agree. I do sort of understand op’s consternation. I don’t browse Lemmy on my work PC, but sometimes on lunch or in public I pull it up on my phone on All communities and I’m suddenly conscious that everyone beside me can see the “sfw” furry and anime art that I scroll past.

    However, that’s kinda my fault. I don’t want to ban those communities because I like that stuff. It’s just a little odd that we call it sfw when, to be honest, I have a hard time picturing most work places where I live happy to see that on my desktop.





  • The attrition is slow, but every user lost to Linux is likely lost forever. After a year or so of totally free software, who is going to build a new windows compatible PC, buy a Windows 11 license, and pay for subscription service just to do word processing, or play a few incompatible games?

    Windows completely overestimates people’s willingness to throw out their laptop or PC just to get a new OS paintjob. For every person who does it, another one will leave their ecosystem forever.



  • If the child is suffering from severe gender Dysphoria, there would be legal grounds for it, yes. The legal definition of child neglect in my country (FL, US) does not require any specific pattern of behavior. Parents are expected to attend to the mental health of thier children, and trans care specifically has been introduced to mitigate suicide risk. It can be a serious mental health issue.

    The principal question is: would it be reported? Plenty of parents abuse thier LGBT kids, causing permanent mental issues and even death, and get away with it. The likelihood that anyone would identify and report this hypothetical trans kid being denied care is low.

    Should there be a specific law? I don’t think so. However, should we train school officials, social workers, and medical staff to recognize and act on this sort of abuse? Yes. This would lead to better outcomes (the parent’s behavior being corrected).