We switched from side-by-side to a pullout drawer freezer on bottom and could not be happier. Side-by-side really limits your storage space, whereas top and bottom units allow you to store larger or unusually shaped things. And having the freezer in a drawer is clutch, way better than having it on top

This question didn’t say anything at all about problems and I think you’ve overreacted.

2000, when we were all chatting through AIM and Napster had just hit the mainstream. Unlimited, above-board piracy.

6/21 was a Saturday, 6/30 was a Monday

Short answer, yes, it can be learned and taught, but the person has to be willing to put in even a bare minimum of effort. If your friend isn’t willing to even consider the possibility of trying something new, they are stuck, unless something changes.

They are angry at how their life ended up, but can’t see how or why they got there, as it relates to their own actions. It’s all someone and something else’s fault.

This sounds like a form of blame-shifting, which is a super toxic trait. Here’s a list I found for you in a web search of some of the possible reasons someone does this:

Low Self-Esteem – Those with a fragile self-image may deflect blame to protect their sense of self-worth.
Fear of Failure – Admitting mistakes can feel overwhelming, leading some to shift responsibility elsewhere.
Lack of Accountability – Some individuals were never taught to take responsibility, often due to permissive parenting or a lack of consequences.
Narcissistic Tendencies – Those with narcissistic traits may believe they’re incapable of being at fault.
Learned Behavior – If blame shifting was modeled during childhood, it can become a default coping mechanism.
Avoidance of Shame – For some, experiencing shame feels unbearable, so they will do anything to avoid it.
Control Issues – Blame shifting can be a way to manipulate situations and maintain control.
Cognitive Dissonance – It can be easier to blame others than to confront inconsistencies between one’s actions and self-image.

All this is to say - there is no one-size-fits-all answer here.

One common option others have already recommended is mindfulness meditation. Practicing focusing your attention on something, then when your mind wanders, notice that and bring your attention back to what you were originally focusing on. Keep doing that for 10 minutes per day (ideally) or even once per week for weeks, months, years.

This and other mindfulness exercises can help someone learn to recognize to accept the world around them as it is, view themselves and others with non-judgment, and practice gratitude and forgiveness.

I’d be interested to hear if you offered to do this with your friend whether he’d be willing to try.

The Tohoku Earthquake was mind boggling. The scale of the earthquake and the tsunami really puts into perspective how insignificant we are in the face of our own planet. At its highest point, the tsunami was 133 feet high (40m). And there was so much footage recorded of the tsunami, the videos on YouTube are endless.

Open and authentic people have no problem making small talk and connecting with others, this has nothing at all to do with pop culture. Dude needs to reacclimate to freedom, a lack of structure, and engaging in relationships in an unfamiliar environment. Talking about fucking tiktok is more likely to make someone seem inauthentic and shallow

I mean no offense, but this is terrible advice. The man’s leaving prison after 11 years, learning the latest social media fads is nowhere near the top of the list of important things he’ll need help readjusting to.

Are ya winning, son?

I think crack users don’t bother with hallucinogens because they’re looking for high impact dopamine hits, not a lengthy psychedelic experience. I don’t think vice versa is true, people who use psychedelics aren’t necessarily avoiding cocaine, but they’re probably using higher quality cocaine rather than crack

Crack cocaine has always been a poor man’s drug. It’s highly adulterated and thus much cheaper

Are you ok?

Crack cocaine use is pervasive among the lowest income folks in my area, as are meth and K2. And those people sure as hell aren’t doing mushrooms or acid. My point is that cocaine use definitely has a bimodal distribution

Bari sax

The QWERTY keyboard was designed to speed typing up, not slow it down

As someone living in the US, I almost always think products “Made in the USA” are pretty high quality. Trouble is almost nothing is made in the USA because almost everything is imported, largely from China or SE Asia.

According to their “About Us” page, they were a small business that is now financed by Post Road Group and Bain Capital. Creating competition for Comcast is a great thing, but I’d bet over the years those capital partners are going to demand enshittification for profit. I’d still drop Comcast like a rock though.

The excavation in the street sounds like the same thing Google Fiber did in my neighborhood, microtrenching fiber in the street along the curb. Has worked great for me for almost 10 years now

It’s been a pretty weak wildflower season due to the drought, unfortunately. That rain we had last week should help push those summer flowers out though!

I’m in central Texas, and all my sunflowers are starting to bud! A week or two and they’ll be in bloom

Danny DeVito as Frank Reynolds vs. Danny DeVito as the Penguin