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Cake day: June 7th, 2023

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  • One thing I had to learn was that if I asked someone out and they said no or didn’t reciprocate wasn’t a loss or rejection.

    Not only that, but you dodged a bullet. I thank women when they respectfully reject me. It’s awesome.

    Also, think about all the times you were turned down. Does any of that matter now?? Nope. No one involved cares at all if they even remember. I think something that might help with this is for OP to place themselves in a position where they reject others. They could experience the other side and see that it’s not a bad thing. It’s just that they think it’s not for them and nothing else. And even in the rare chance that the rejection is seen as something else by the rejecting person, then even better because that’s not just dodging a bullet but dodging an artillery shell.


  • Maybe it’s not that you can’t be what someone else wants, but that you aren’t finding or building relationships with the people that would want you. There are so many people with such vasts tastes, that there is someone for everyone, even serial killers or 40 year olds that dress in diapers. Whatever you are, there are people that are looking for that. It’s a matter of finding and building a relationship with them. ♥️









  • Maybe no one else will find this funny, but I do. My parents were Cuban immigrants to the USA. My uncle in particular was in his prime dating age when I was a little kid, so he would play the hits when I was around. Since he didn’t know English yet, he would just guess the sounds the singers were making when he sung along. For that reason, I thought the chorus to a song was “spoon apurataaaa” and that songs didn’t need to make sense. The singers could just make noises representing their feelings rather than use actual words. It wasnt until much later and a bunch of bullying in middle school that I learned almost all popular songs are based on words and “spoon apurataaaaa” was actually “smooth operator”. Til this day, I still think of a spoon when I hear Smooth Operator by Sade.

    Not really relevant video of a Smooth Operator


  • I tried installing Arch once about 10 years ago. I couldn’t get it to work even though I admittedly didn’t try my hardest. I was in a PhD program at the time, so my mental resources and time were quite limited. Still, I had real experience as a sysadmin, so I wasn’t entirely computer illiterate. Every time I see a potential user switching to Linux asking for distro recommendations and others suggests Arch, I internally roll my eyes. Unless that user is a computer programmer or similar looking to prove their skills to themselves, that is a great way to get someone to never switch to Linux because they will more than likely become overwhelmed with the installation.

    If you are switching to Linux for the first time and don’t want to spend a frustrating week reading a wiki and troubleshooting lots of minute but consequential issues, don’t start with Arch! Linux Mint is by far the easiest for new users. Give it a run for a while until you feel like switching to more demanding distros.