Obviously I can understand why mysoginists are hated upon, As their belief is all women are trash or men are superior etc. But why are incels also generally hated upon? They are lacking in a way that makes them unable to gey in a relationship, but that shouldn’t necessarily mean they are mysoginists, right?

What am I missing here? I haven’t ever had a relationship with a woman, but I don’t hate all women either. I just consider myself unlucky. Does that make me an incel?

  • ReiRose@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    An incel blames women for their singleness.

    There are some amazing people out there who just, for whatever reason, find themselves without a partner. Confidence, mental health, physical health, family commitments, location.

    When they seek solice online they find themselves on the fringes of incel communities. However, it doesn’t sit right, because they are not incels. They don’t hate-blame half the population. They maybe blame themselves, or see the circumstances that led them to their present state before a blanket blame is cast upon a bunch of people they don’t know.

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      5 months ago

      Important to note that many also blame other men.

      When they sit there looking at a girl, frustrated and angry that they can’t talk to her as they grip their beer with increasing strength… I just walk up and say hey how’s it going.

      In that scenario, I am a massive asshole that has deprived them of the opportunity to have that woman. I took her attention all for myself and left him none. Even though at no point was he ever going to let this woman know he existed or talked to her.