Hi everyone!
I am F21. I have a boyfriend (M20). We are in relationship approximately 1 month (before that we was best friends for 7 or even more years).
We have a lot in common an I really love him (and as I know he too).
We started dating as I accidentally saw my photo on his laptop (I already liked him). After asking him what was that he told me that he liked me for a long time and was afraid to tell me that.
As our personalities - we are typical “otaku” (anime nerds), so we always had hanged out together in the past.
Now everything fine, I really like him, but I am bothered about him being trembling every single time I am close. I know for sure that I am the only one he likes to talk (we are both extremely quiet personalities) and we are together 99% of time. And this happens only if I take his hand or hug him.
I don’t want to ask him about this because I afraid he will get ashamed of this.
Should I worry?
In my opinion, the most important aspect of a healthy and strong relationship (romantic or platonic) is communication.
Talk to him. Mention it as an observation, ask him about why he thinks he does this, tell him your thoughts or concerns about it, whatever. It might be one conversation or multiple conversations over a period of time. The point is to bring up the topic and harbor a safe space to discuss anything with little to no judgement.