Hi everyone!

I am F21. I have a boyfriend (M20). We are in relationship approximately 1 month (before that we was best friends for 7 or even more years).

We have a lot in common an I really love him (and as I know he too).

We started dating as I accidentally saw my photo on his laptop (I already liked him). After asking him what was that he told me that he liked me for a long time and was afraid to tell me that.

As our personalities - we are typical “otaku” (anime nerds), so we always had hanged out together in the past.

Now everything fine, I really like him, but I am bothered about him being trembling every single time I am close. I know for sure that I am the only one he likes to talk (we are both extremely quiet personalities) and we are together 99% of time. And this happens only if I take his hand or hug him.

I don’t want to ask him about this because I afraid he will get ashamed of this.

Should I worry?

  • calcopiritus@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    At some point he’ll just get used to you touching him.

    I don’t see a reason to worry. You’ve probably seen in anime “oh no, she’s touching me! I should act normal or I’ll scare her”. Of course that’s just an exaggeration, but my best guess is that he’s nervous because he likes you and don’t wanna fuck It up.

    First of all, make sure he’s okay with it. But if you wanna speed up the process, just touch him more, let him touch you, etc. Again, only if he’s comfortable, don’t force him.

    EDIT: just to make sure, I’ll clarify, if he doesn’t wanna get touched, touching him without asking will only make it worse, so it’s probably better to go slower in that case (or not, ask him).