Obviously I can understand why mysoginists are hated upon, As their belief is all women are trash or men are superior etc. But why are incels also generally hated upon? They are lacking in a way that makes them unable to gey in a relationship, but that shouldn’t necessarily mean they are mysoginists, right?

What am I missing here? I haven’t ever had a relationship with a woman, but I don’t hate all women either. I just consider myself unlucky. Does that make me an incel?

  • DessertStorms@kbin.social
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    8 months ago

    I generally agree with your comment, but this

    They really haven’t been taught well by our society how to interact with women. They’re trying to get into a relationship using what they’ve been taught, but they’re floundering, reasonably, because society has taught them to view women as sex objects.

    I think is wrong.
    The whole problem is that the patriarchy absolutely teaches (especially white) men that women are objects, and that men are entitled to women and sex (but that only virginal women are worthy of marriage).
    Some men unlearn this shit early on, some remain “neutral” assholes (those who will end up abusing but aren’t doing it consciously out of ideology, but still from the same sense of entitlement), and some take the entitlement to the extreme and adopt it as their ideology and way of life, but I think it’s really fucking important to highlight that they are in fact not taught anything different by society before that point, they just take their entitlement to another level once they’ve found others to confirm it for them.

    Either way, the name is a complete misnomer - they aren’t “involuntarily” celibate, they are celibate because they actively refuse to not be walking entitled pieces of shit.