I play guitar and drums. I want to find friends to play with, but I’m not connected into any music circles. Currently, my social circle is only salsa and bachata dancers. Any ideas how I can find others?

ps - I’m pretty socially anxious and autistic, so making friends takes me extra effort and time.

  • PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S [he/him]@lemmy.sdf.org
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    5 months ago

    Back on R*ddit, I actually managed to connect with a few R*dditors (under a different username tho) through the /r/BedroomBands sub. Looks like it’s still active. As far as I’m aware, we don’t have anything like that on Lemmy yet.

    From my experience in music, drummers are always in demand, especially if you can record your kit, even badly; real kit with sample replacement always beats an electric kit, which itself beats programmed drums. (And programming drums from scratch is so boring, speaking from experience.) So I think you’ll find people very quickly if you mention it.

    As far as my music chops go, I play guitar and bass, mainly metal, but I’m really more of a producer. Unfortunately, I had to stop taking clients from R*ddit because I had to focus on school. Now I’m living with my grandmother and parents so I can’t really do music stuff without headphones, so I’m kinda out of commission for a while.

    ps - I’m pretty socially anxious and autistic, so making friends takes me extra effort and time.

    Me too. It took me months to build up the courage to make my first post. But it was one of the best things I ever did, and I miss that part of my life dearly.

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      From my experience in music, drummers are always in demand

      I didn’t want to edit my post again so I’m posting it here:

      OP, if you’re socially anxious at those local shows and don’t know what to talk about – tell them you play drums and are looking for people to play with The quote I’m replying to is 100% accurate.