I have noticed that I interact a lot more in Lemmy than I ever did in any social media. Let it be Reddit, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter… I am used to be the lurker, but here for some reason things are different. Wonder if more people feel like I do.

  • Spzi@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    This place bans you for “not being nice”, which is an arbitrary metric that changes from mod to mod and let’s all be honest, being nice is exhausting.

    Lemmy is many places (individual instances with individual moderation policies). If it’s important to you, you can find a server which matches your expectations, or host your own.

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      1 year ago

      Even though i used different words, i believe i said pretty much the same thing in the part of my post you’re not quoting. Or perhaps we’ve been taught different kinds of English. Might explain the lack of understanding around here.

      Ah, my mistake. I wrote communities, you wrote instances. Yes, the difference is immesureable. My apologies.

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        1 year ago

        I don’t think we were talking about the same thing. You’re talking about restricting your behaviour, “focus on your niche”, “stay away from propaganda media”. My proposal was to use an instance which makes it unecessary for you to restrict yourself to certain areas, if their moderation policy aligns with your default behaviour.

        Of course it ultimately comes down to similar things, since instances which do not care wether you’re nice aren’t allowed in all places which require you to be nice. The key difference is still that you don’t have to be wary yourself. It sounded as if you would not like that.

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          1 year ago

          Yes, we might be talking in parallel. It’s true i might be on the wrong side of the fence since i expect that even the hateful deserve their chance to speak, at least until they become irremediable. And i do disagree with this safe space isolative behaviour. Perhaps you are correct and i should instead visit those, and i’m paraphrasing, ‘bigotry-infested phobic hellholes’ for a while and see what’s what.

          Thank you.