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Not that it matters now, but I’m curious. I don’t know if I was popular. I had a lot of friends in middle school and I would say I did in high school too, but a lot less people knew me as the middle school I went to was smaller.
I have no idea actually. there was no active bullying at any of the schools I went like the cliche movie scenes, more like passive silent cast out.
lol.
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I def was not popular. Introverted, into anime, video games, metal and classical music, was in the band.
Was definitely one of the weird kids, I was nice enough, but I don’t really get people, so ended up having a small group of tight knit friends and that’s was about it. :3
Sounds similar to me in some ways, I think a small group of friends like that is better though. A few of us a still quite close and catch up regularly so I call that a win vs being generally popular.
Nope. It was the 60/70’s and I had untreated ADHD. I was the weird one pretty much to anyone. Family later in life called me uncle nutsy.
Was not medically diagnosed until very recently. I got tested to confirm for myself and self knowing. My paternal family all gone now but at least I know for myself.
Edit typo
I am sure there was a sense of relief to the part of you that always blamed you for the perceived inadequacies.
Definitely a relief. Was only a couple weeks ago. Still trying to wrap my head around it.
Never been treated in my life. Is it too late to try meds, therapy or whatever the treatment regime is. Is it worth it at my age etc etc even if it’s just for a bit to see. Gonna take some time.
Treatment comes in many forms and can differ very widely from person to person.
Even if you don’t find the help you want right away, you know about it at least.
Enjoy your somewhat guilt free life. 👋
I’d say I was? I got along with most everyone and it wasn’t uncommon for me to walk around during lunch break and most people to recognize me
I didn’t go to that kind of school. My graduating class was 47 people; about a third of us had been together since kindergarten. We all got along, how could we not?
I was bullied at every school I went to. Growing up an undiagnosed autistic girl was not easy. I managed to make a few friends when I got to a bigger school because we were all outcasts together, but that wasn’t until I was 16 and almost done school. Even after I stood up to my bully when I was 15 I still got tortured at the small town school before that.
TBH I still don’t know how to make friends today and my only friend is one of the ones I managed to dupe into liking me when I was 16 lol
I relate to the friend problem too much. Last friend I made was ~15 years ago.
I made a friend, she was like a sister to me for 12 years. Our families lived together for almost a decade, I was a surrogate for her, we were family. Earlier this year she went on a racist tirade and when I wasn’t ok with it she stopped talking to me. Now I’m scared to try making friends again.
The friend I kept from high school may be distant now, but at least she’s consistent and out expectations of each other are equal: don’t be an asshole, see you next year.
I was an outcast, no one interacted with except to harass me
I sympathize a lot with the song “Mr. Popular” by Double A-Ron. I had almost no friends my first two years, then suddenly half the school knew me my last two years. I still didn’t get invited to anything very often, and when I did no one actually wanted to interact with me. But people knew/thought that I was popular because tons of people would stop to say hi or whatever to me.
Edit to add: Actually in my last year there, one of my teachers had taken note of my “popularity” particularly with girls. Referred to me as a “modern day Casanova” and asked for advice on what gift to get his wife. I had had girlfriends but buying anniversary gifts for a wife was a bit out of my wheelhouse lol
I guess? I’m a chatty ADHD enjoyer, I was friends or at least had good relationships with most of the kids in my class of 135 lads. And I’m still happy to meet up with them when possible, since I left my home country a decade and a half ago and I love seeing how they’ve grown and are today prosocial, responsible, mature men but are still somehow the same people they were so many years ago, and it’s like time barely changed us. 🥲❤️
I wasn’t popular, but I wasn’t unknown either. I was that kid that kind of fit into any group and had my friends/connections. Graduating class was close to 500.
Yea and no. I was by no means the guy everyone wanted to hang out with. But I did know and hang out with and eclectic collection of people. I got along with everyone. Probably because I thought and still think most people are cool in their own right and you just gotta find that for them.
I guess
Only after I “fought” my bully and made them cry by not being hurt by their punches and laughing at how weak they were.
I tried to fight a bully two times. Neither one ended well. Turns out, sometimes they’re not cowards.
Popular people didn’t see themselves as popular, they just had a lot of friends from their perspective. Social structures are only really visible from the bottom-up.
No. I was the weird gutter-goth kid who was either terrifying or called the f-slur depending on who you asked. I had friends but it was a small circle of people who shared my interests. I still talk to most of them 20+ years later.
